In many different contexts, it seems as if things are continually increasing, rising, expanding or growing. We are told the universe grows as though the galaxies are placed on the outside of a balloon that is being blown up indefinitely (until it pops?). We are also told that if you are able to save even …
Tag: psychology
Accomplishments
I have mentioned in the past that I have never really understood or related to my own emotions. As long as I can remember, I felt like I would observe people giving an emotional response to some event in their lives and try to figure out how I would feel if I had experienced the …
Urban vs Rural, or Proof That We Live Too Fast
Since autism and neurodiversity have become such "hot topics" in the culture lately, some very interesting wisdom has come to me. One thing is that ever since I moved to the city, when I graduated college essentially, I have spent inordinate amounts of time and energy just trying to exist, transport myself to work and …
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On Being an Irritant
Playing "Devil's advocate" is a skill that not everyone appreciates. It is definitely a skill that, when employed, makes some people uncomfortable. If you are someone who tends to challenge others, buck the status quo, question everything or constantly looks for opportunities for improvement, you are an irritant. A fly in the ointment. Assuming your …
Superpowers
One of my favorite things about being autistic is that I actually love and respect what my brain has the capacity to do, when I am operating at my best. I am able to consume audio spoken word at 1.7x speed, at a minimum. I can actively listen to, and participate in, two conversations at …
Becoming Unstuck
I don't think its a huge secret that I have felt pretty stuck for a long time, like years. There is not a really clear reason why this is. Part of it is overwhelm, laziness, inertia, but a good part of it is external as well. When the pandemic happened, I was relatively emotionally prepared …
How Much Does a Bath Cost?
As previously mentioned, I am on vacation this week. So far, activities have included sleeping in, getting a sunburn on the deck while having morning coffee, playing multiple games of cribbage and Rummikub with dear husband, paddling in the kayaks for a short time and MAYBE seeing a pinniped of some sort in the water, …
Finding and Claiming my Space
I feel like I have been conditioned through my life to consider and recognize how every one of my actions has the potential to affect others. And that those others may not be interested in being affected. Whether they reply with a nasty comment or a look or the energy between us in our relationship …
The Problem with “Fake it ’til You Make It”
Over my years in the professional world, I have often heard the phrase "fake it 'til you make it" given as advice for combating "imposter syndrome," or feeling like you're out over your skis, or out of your depth. This is terrible advice. This is advice given by someone who is uncomfortable with their own …
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Growth Requires Change
I've written about change a lot in the last year. It's kinda one of my fascinations in life. Having spent much of my life feeling stuck in situations that were not entirely of my doing or planning or in my control, punctuated by episodes of immediate and sometimes drastic change (like moving to a new …
