One of my favorite things about being autistic is that I actually love and respect what my brain has the capacity to do, when I am operating at my best. I am able to consume audio spoken word at 1.7x speed, at a minimum. I can actively listen to, and participate in, two conversations at …
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The Problem with “Fake it ’til You Make It”
Over my years in the professional world, I have often heard the phrase "fake it 'til you make it" given as advice for combating "imposter syndrome," or feeling like you're out over your skis, or out of your depth. This is terrible advice. This is advice given by someone who is uncomfortable with their own …
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Growth Requires Change
I've written about change a lot in the last year. It's kinda one of my fascinations in life. Having spent much of my life feeling stuck in situations that were not entirely of my doing or planning or in my control, punctuated by episodes of immediate and sometimes drastic change (like moving to a new …
What Do You Work For?
Many of us work in jobs that are, at least remotely related to a field that we enjoy. Maybe you went to college in a scientific field or to be an engineer. You started out in that field and were successful and competent enough that you were promoted to management. You may not LOVE your …
As the Pandemic Wanes…
We have been through a lot. Some of us have lost family members and friends to Covid. Some have lost family members and friends to other causes. We have lost jobs, careers, ways of life, routines, traditions, feelings of trust and safely, feelings that things are OK. Every single person will be forever changed by …
Fitting in is Overrated
Until only a few years ago, I had spent my entire life believing that there was something inherently WRONG with me. I didn't experience feelings about things like it appeared that other people were feeling. I couldn't do things right, or the way people expected me to do them. I didn't really feel like what …
The Best Advice I Ever Heard
There are definitely times I have struggled over the last year to keep writing. I am consistently plagued by voices in my head saying that I'm not contributing to society as I said I wanted to, or that there are so many people already writing more eloquently about autism, or simply that blogging is so …
Shorts #2 – Theories of Change
Change is hard, but always doings things the same way means you haven't learned a way to do it better. Fear of change in your own life can not only diminish your quality of life over time, but also contribute to wider stagnation in your family, community and society. Resistance to change is ultimately about …
Screw Mindfulness
Mindfulness = the program through which the established societal consensus convinces laypeople that the discomfort they are feeling is internally caused, and can be solved by focusing more on internal resolve than fighting for real righteous change that threatens the power structure. Mindfulness is all the rage these days, can't stop hearing about it. Everyone …
The Web of Humanity
Here it is, 2am again, and my mind is racing. I got a text from a friend last night which led to an hour long "catching up" conversation. I think I pretty much dominated the talk time; fortunately for me, this friend is a great listener who I trust would tell me to STFU if …
